I have never attended a wedding that didn’t include this promise. Or one very much like it, ‘As long as we both shall live.’ And on that momentous, life-changing day, every bride and groom means it with all of their heart.
But if I look at every couple I’ve ever known, I only know of two who actually made it to that point. My grandparents and one aunt and uncle.
In every other marriage, at least one half of the couple has been divorced.
While the rate is declining, from 7.9 (per 1,000) in 1980 to 5.2 in 2008, the United States still leads the world in the number of divorces. Frankly I’m not sure where the .9 and .2 come from because I think it’s pretty much impossible to divorce part of a person.
That’s a lot of divorcing. And it makes me wonder what happens between the ‘You may kiss your bride,’ and the dissolution of the marriage.
Sure there are issues like abuse, alcohol and drugs in some cases, and we all can understand that. But in normal, happy relationships, what happens? Is it because boredom sets in? Bad habits (like leaving the toilet seat up, or the cap off the toothpaste) that a husband or wife just can’t deal with? I mean something was there in the beginning that clearly isn’t at the end.
I suspect some couples call it quits because if they don’t, the ’til death do us part’ will become an issue, resulting in a prison sentence for the surviving spouse.
Any thoughts on the matter? What do you think are some of the causes of divorce these days?