Remember that game we used to play when we were kids? ‘Star light, star bright, first star I see tonight. Wish I may, wish I might, have this wish I wish tonight.’ Except it wasn’t really a game. Nope. We always hoped that our wishes would come true. Right? Admit it. You did, too. Even the guys. Because there was just something so magical about that first star every night. Something that made it seem as though anything were possible.
Your Romeo or Juliet probably made some wishes, too.
Do you know what any of them were? What they wanted to be when they grew up? What they thought they’d be like as an adult? Is their life anything like they wished for as a child? I mean really… Do you know what they’re afraid of? What truly makes them happy (besides you)? Have you been getting the feeling that there’s something going on with them, but they don’t seem comfortable sharing it with you? Depending on how much interest you’ve shown, or not shown, they may well be holding something back.
We’re never too old to make wishes.
I would rather have used Wishing You Were Here, because I love it, but this is more in line with the subject this week…
Sometimes cartoons get it right, so make like a kid again.
Why not plan a quiet evening, out under the stars, if possible, and play a grown up version of the wishing game? If there are no stars, or if it’s too cold, use your imagination. Cut cut a star out of piece of printer paper, hang it somewhere private, turn the lights off and light a few candles. Find a comfortable place to lay down with your Romeo or Juliet, where you can gaze at the star…
And then you start the game. You make a wish.
And don’t take the easy way out and wish for something like ending world hunger. Everyone would like to do that, which makes it totally not personal. Dig deep. Something along the lines of, “I really wish I could see my grandpa for just five minutes. I’d love to tell him how much having him in my life challenged me to be a better person.”
Now turn to your love and say, “What do you wish for?” And don’t just stop at one. Spend all night sharing your wishes if you want. It’s a fantastic way to get to know one another in new ways. It doesn’t all have to be serious, because we all have silly, outrageous dreams, too.
I’m going to advise you to take some advice from an earlier post…really listen to the answers. File them away…and consider how you might help to make them come true.
For instance, if Romeo or Juliet is the one who said something about wishing for five minutes with their grandfather, buy some flowers and make a trip to the cemetery, if it’s within driving distance. Invite the love of your life to sit beside his grave and talk to him. If it’s not close enough to visit, use your imagination. Have a photograph of him blown up, do something to give this person you love an opportunity to say the words that need to be said.
Start showing him (or her) exactly how much they mean to you by making the little things that are important to them a priority.
See you next week for a new tip.
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If you think that any of the suggested tips are a good fit for you, and you decide to give them a try, I’d love to know if you got the results you hoped for. Although I can’t guarantee you’ll get any results, most people respond well to sweetness, consideration and attention. Just remember, you will need to exercise some patience, and be consistent. Anything worth having usually requires effort.
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