Romance At Its Finest

Okay, so I’m still trying to get back into the habit of sleeping, so I’m going to make this post an easy one. In fact, I’m going to let Ryan Gosling show us what it means to be romantic. And it’s not only for the guys. Just because he’s the example, it doesn’t mean that you ladies can’t put forth the same kind of effort.

From major geek to…wowza!

I pretty much fell in love with Ryan Gosling while watching The Notebook. It had been recommended to me a number of times for several years, but all I could picture was Alan, the dorky Buck Owens fan in Remember the Titans. So not a romantic lead I was interested in seeing.

When I finally gave in, all I could think was holy smoke! Totally romantic lead material now. Why?

Watch these clips from the movie, and I’ll break it down for you…

So the video quality isn’t the greatest, you can still learn something from this.

Scene by scene, what made this man a romantic fool?

How romantic is it to dance in the middle of a deserted street? I would consider it to rate a 99 on a scale of 1-10. A walk itself can be special on its own, but Noah took it a step further when he pulled Allie into the road and danced with no music, or band, or even a radio. Just a spur of the moment gesture that will be remembered long after it’s over.

Getting silly together also rates right up there on the romance scale. Whether it’s pretending to be birds in the ocean surf, of giggling in the toy aisles at a department store as you play with everything that has a button, having fun together is romantic.

Staying power is romantic. Noah wrote Allie for a solid year. Three-hundred and sixty-five letters. Every single day he let her know what she meant to him. The guy just refused to give up easily. Who wouldn’t want that sort of commitment?

Acceptance. Regardless of her faults, he loves her unconditionally. Yes, she drives him crazy most of the time, and he knows their relationship will take a lot of hard work and effort, but to him, she’s worth it. Tell me that’s not romantic.

He’s not afraid to let her see the real him. They’re from completely different worlds, but he’s not ashamed of where he came from. That kind of pride and loyalty is admirable, and is a great indication that whatever he commits to, it’s wholeheartedly. Fortunately for Allie, the real Noah is well worth knowing. Serious, fun, dependable. He even encourages her to take risks when he knows it will be good for her. So yeah…definitely romantic.

I won’t spoil the end, for those who haven’t seen it. Suffice it to say that Noah never took the love of his life for granted. We can all learn a lot from him, male and female alike.

And now I think I’m going to kick back and rest my eyes. Maybe I’ll doze off and dream about Ryan. Or Robert (as in Downey Jr.). Thanks for stopping by.

***Photo Credit: JessieHarrell


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8 Responses to Romance At Its Finest

  1. Debra Kristi says:

    I’ve never seen that movie, but I am a Ryan Gosling fan. And I have danced on the side of the road to the car radio. Does that count? It was romantic. But that relationship didn’t stand the test of time.

    • It definitely counts, Debra! The only thing I’ve done at the side of the road is walk…once with a baby (flat tire), and once with a toddler (blown engine…right around midnight…past a cemetery….CREEPY!). 🙂

      Too bad we can’t take all the good things from past relationships, and roll them all into one perfect person, isn’t it? Dancing on the side of the road would definitely have to be added to that mix. 🙂

      Now I’m going to be like the friend who nagged me for two or three years…you need to see that movie. It’s great! 🙂

  2. mj monaghan says:

    I still can’t believe you hadn’t seen the Notebook. And you call yourself a romantic??

    Now Titans (as in Remember the) is one of my fave movies, ever, The Notebook was classic romance.

    Glad you finally came around, my friend! 🙂

    • Do you remember a show called Welcome Back, Kotter? If so, can you remember Horshack as a romantic lead? LOL..okay, so Alan wasn’t anywhere near that bad, but….skinny little Alan? Maybe the guy who played Sunshine. 🙂

      I’m glad I gave in, too. I loved the movie and, in fact, am going to have to find out where my daughter hid it so I can watch it again. 🙂

  3. I don’t know Asrai, I can feast on the ‘new’ Ryan. LOL

  4. asraidevin says:

    Ryan and I go further back. He played a geek on the Canadian teen show “Breaker High” He was a wanna be ladies man (so that he plays one now hurts me from laughing to tears). I preferred him as a geek.

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