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  1. Steve (extension 128)
    October 31, 2012 @ 7:43 am

    I too am very cynical in a lot of aspects of life. I prefer to look at it as being realistic, not cyncial (maybe that makes me an optimist?) since it seems like fewer and fewer people do the right thing nowadays. Sometimes I will give a dollar or two to a homeless person, sometimes I won’t. I go by feel. In addition to a hospice, local soup kitchens are good places to donate food, clothing, and cash. Given that we are approaching the holidays and that the economy is still in the tank, those organizations will need as much help as those of us can muster to give.

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    • Kristy K. James...Living, Loving, Laughing
      November 2, 2012 @ 3:19 am

      To the best of my knowledge, we don’t have places like that around here, but I’ll definitely be contributing to the food collection boxes around town. Not sure what else there is, but Hospice is, and likely will always be, my favorite place to give. Glad to know that others are there for those in need, too. 🙂

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  2. Natalie Hartford
    October 31, 2012 @ 7:54 am

    How freaking sad is that?! I have to say…I saw a movie once where the guy was making 40K a year panhandling and it’s always made me wonder about people I see on the street. The other night my BFF and I were leaving the coffee shop. It was cold out. We were walking down the street and there was a teenager sitting by a building with his hat out for donations. I thought about. I considered it. Until I saw him talking on his CELLPHONE?! You can afford a cellphone…you obviously have funds my friend. I was irate. Felt like he was trying to play us all for a fool.

    There is one man I do give to periodically. Our city is small so I seen him walking around downtown and hanging out at the local shelter so I am comfortable when I hand him some change after getting my coffee, he’s the real deal. But for the most part, I am like you Kristy. I prefer to give my time and money to an organization that I KNOW is working to help people…I believe it’s a better use of my dollars because it goes to help not only the people in need but the organization itself stay afloat which employees people etc…

    I don’t think you are being cynical…just realistic to the scams that are out there….sad that there are people out there like that!

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    • Kristy K. James...Living, Loving, Laughing
      November 2, 2012 @ 3:27 am

      Yeah, the cell phone thing would have gotten to me, too. I have just seen too much to trust much. Especially when we rented the first floor apartment in town. A couple rented the one upstairs…and they bragged about all the places they took advantage of. Getting free food and gifts from churches and other organizations during the holidays, free clothes from a clothing bank…that they sold during summer-long rummage sales.

      And another couple that was worse, going on and on about how the homeless shelter houses in our town were better than the ones the bigger city twenty miles away. They also complained…COMPLAINED… because they had to pay $240 a month for a nice two-story house (and it INCLUDED utilities), and how the shelter stopped giving them gas and phone cards, and laundry vouchers. I was paying $550 for a small, 2-bedrrom apartment PLUS utilities, and no free gas, telephone or laundry. It just made me sick.

      So yeah, I guess I’ve seen too much (and these are only two of many examples). 🙂

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  3. gingercalem
    October 31, 2012 @ 8:33 am

    I’m in the cynical group. I’ve never handed out money to pan-handlers. I’d rather give them food if I can. But that recalls a time I tried to do just that. My family was leaving the spaghetti factory. I was late teens, I think. A guy sitting on the sidewalk asked for spare change. I said I didn’t have any but offered him our leftovers. Fresh, hot spaghetti. He told me he didn’t want food that had touched my lips but would rather have my lips instead. WTH!! Yeah, enter cynicism.

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    • Kristy K. James...Living, Loving, Laughing
      November 2, 2012 @ 3:28 am

      Ewwwwww!!! That was just wrong, Ginger. I’m afraid the guy would have been wearing the spaghetti had it been me! That would make me cynical, too. What a jerk! 🙂

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  4. mj monaghan
    October 31, 2012 @ 7:42 pm

    Hmm, I’m cynical, but yet there are certain times when I feel I should give something. I gave up trying to figure out if there scamming or not. I know where my heart is when I give, and what they do with the money is their choice. I can’t help that part.

    All that said, I rarely give any money to someone on a street corner like the video shows. On our recent trip, MLB gave money to a young pregnant woman who said she needed money for gas. Who knows, though.

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    • Kristy K. James...Living, Loving, Laughing
      November 2, 2012 @ 3:30 am

      I try to not be this way, MJ, but as I explained to Natalie above, I’ve just seen too much I guess. I stick with the organizations. Although I do look for opportunities to help others. Unfortunately it’s usually people I know who are in need. I just don’t trust strangers all that much. 🙂

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  5. Debra Kristi
    November 2, 2012 @ 1:10 pm

    I tend to be cynical as well. I’ve seen the one’s you try to give food to and they won’t take it. I’ve also seen too many reports of them walking away to get in their very nice Ford Explorer or something. It’s sad that people like that hurt the ones really in need. 🙁

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    • Kristy K. James...Living, Loving, Laughing
      November 6, 2012 @ 2:29 am

      I know. That’s why I’m pretty choosy about the ones I donate to. Hospice you know the donations go to make dying people more comfortable. And after what happened with my dad and grandparents, and a couple of aunts and uncles, that’s important to me.

      But someone on the street? I just don’t see me ever doing that.

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  6. Jennette Marie Powell
    November 2, 2012 @ 4:04 pm

    These people peg my skepticism meter! I always wonder, how do I know you’re really a vet? Or like you, why’d you drive here if you didn’t have gas? And with the stories in the news, I also fear they might be planning to do worse than take my money under false pretenses. +1 for Hospice, and for giving your money to a cause where you know it will be used for good!

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    • Kristy K. James...Living, Loving, Laughing
      November 6, 2012 @ 2:32 am

      Thanks, Jennette. And I know! That gas thing always gets me. If I KNEW I didn’t have enough, and no money either, I wouldn’t drive an hour or two from home in hopes I could beg enough from strangers to get back again.

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