Prince, Frog, or Wart on the Frog?

So tonight I was looking at my blog stats and found that someone had looked at a post I wrote way back on October 17, 2011, titled ‘What a Prince.’ This is that same post, under a new title…just in case any of the three people who read it then, and who read it now, happen to remember it. Yeah, it was early in my blogging career so there weren’t many who even knew it existed.


It’s probably a pretty fair assumption to say that most every girl in the world has seen, or read, romantic fairy-tales.   Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Snow White…  I could list more, but you get the idea.  Why are little girls (and sometimes not so little girls) captivated by the whole happily-ever-after thing?

Because we’re girls, and most of us are very much into romance.  And what could be better than a handsome Prince Charming coming to the rescue of the beautiful girl (or princess)?

Our very own Prince Charming.

(there was another video here, but it was disabled and I had to replace it with this one)

Okay, so it’s Romeo. Romeo, Prince Charming…same thing. Except hopefully the prince won’t poison himself.

Are there any real-life princes though?  We grown-ups call them soul mates now, which I guess makes it sound like there’s a deeper meaning.  But basically I think they’re one in the same.  The question is, are they just fantasy, or flesh and blood men?

At different times in my life, I thought I might have found mine.  Some turned out to be frogs.  Others turned out to be the warts on frogs.

Frankly I don’t know anyone who seems to think they got their prince.  Well maybe one woman, but they’ve been married well over fifty years and she thinks the sun rises and sets with him.  Most of the rest seem to be content ( or maybe resigned?) with their lot in life.  But if there’s any romance there, I’m not aware of it.  Of course I’m not with them twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week either so who knows.

Do fairytales set us up to be disappointed when we grow up?  Or do we just settle and lose out on that whole soul mate connection?  Or…did we have it and it just got lost in the shuffle of life.  Responsibilities, kids, jobs…

The Urban Dictionary defines ‘soul mate’ as:  A person with whom you have an immediate connection the moment you meet – a connection so strong that you are drawn to them in a way you have never experienced before…

Now I can’t vouch for the accuracy of the Urban Dictionary, but that seems to go along with what I’ve heard other people describe.  Those who believe they’ve found their other half.  Wouldn’t it be interesting to talk to them ten years later and see if that assessment still holds true?

Are there any princes left today (if there were ever any to begin with)?  Or do we just have well-behaved (fairly), domesticated frogs to choose from?  I’m kind of leaning toward the frogs.  Just not too close.  After all, Miss Piggy never was able to turn Kermit into a prince with a kiss, so why take a chance on catching warts?


What about you?  Do you believe in soul-mates?  Were you blessed with a prince, or an amphibian?

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11 Responses to Prince, Frog, or Wart on the Frog?

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  2. Marcia says:

    I found my prince though, as I think is true with any man, he’s had some frog moments. Then again, I’m sure I’ve had some frog moments myself. I know I’m certainly not the perfect princess from the fairy tale.
    I don’t think fairy tales lead kids astray, they just stop too soon. They end when you’re blinded by love with stars in your eyes and they don’t show you how to cope with the reality of life with someone new. Trying to combine two different personalities and lifestyles almost always leads to some kind of friction.
    I think a lot of what makes a prince a prince is our view of him. Yes, each man will have flaws- no one is perfect. But if we can remember to see the best in him and encourage him and overlook what we see as shortcomings, the same way we would want him to do for us, then I think we can have our fairy tale marriage despite our froggy tendencies! 🙂

    • Kristy K. James says:

      Hi, Marcia…welcome! 🙂

      I think you nailed the problem with Prince & Princess Charming. If we’re not willing to take the time to encourage, if we can’t overlook flaws and shortcomings (while being very aware of our own), then no marriage (or relationship) will have the happily-ever-after fairy tale ending.

      Personally, I don’t want a perfect prince. Perfection in another sets the bar too high for me. While I will always try to be the best me I can be…I don’t ever plan on aiming to be flawless. It’s jut not possible, not for me…and not for whoever my prince will be. And that’s something I think a lot of people don’t consider. If what they want is perfection in a partner, then that’s what they need to be prepared to give…and I doubt there are many willing to do that. 🙂

  3. Hey, that was me. So since you bumped this back up I’ll respond. I think probably Prince Charming lost some of his luster once he was ruling the Kingdom everyday, so in that case I think I got a Prince, not the first time, definite frog, but the second ones a keeper! But then I’m no Princess either. It’s been 14 years now, he’s been on a job working long days and overnights, last Sunday morning at 5AM he was waking up as I got up to “p”, as I’m crawling back into bed he leans over and hugs me and says “Thank you for loving me” Not being a morning person I mumbled “love you to” and rolled over and went back to sleep. 🙂 Later I asked him why and he said that, he said it was because I’d been bringing him a home cooked dinner each night at the job site. Said he didn’t know anyone else who would do that. (Of course his first 3 wives were frogs, or maybe witches?)

    It’s not all fairy tales you don’t just get happily ever after, you have to work for it but then all the fairy tales end at the wedding, well except for Shrek and we know they hit a few bumps along the way. 😉

    • Kristy K. James says:

      Well I’m glad to know that someone saw some of my earlier posts, Kathie. 🙂

      Sometimes we have to work our way through a few frogs to find our Prince Charming, don’t we? I love, love, LOVE that he thanked you for loving him like that. LOL…and I love your immediate reaction, too. I may have to use that in a story…not exactly like that, but something very similar. It’s totally adorable.

      You are spot on about fairy tales ending at the wedding. Those who write them must have known that things like morning breath, ill-timed gas emissions, dirty socks on the floor, and dribbles on the toilet seat are something LESS than romantic. 🙂

      • Kathie says:

        You are more than welcome to use it in any manner you like.

        Bless his heart I don’t have to put up with too many of those common things, but he is slow…….very slow, there are a few things that it’s good to be slow for but we have a standing joke at the gym, sometimes I spend 20-30 minutes when we’re done, waiting for him to come out of the locker room. The employees used to ask if they could help me and I’d tell them nope, waiting for my husband, he’s the only man I know that takes longer to get ready to go somewhere than a woman. Now they all just see me waiting for him and when he starts strolling through the gym the girls look over, roll their eyes at me and laugh. At Home Depot or Lowe’s I just pull up a chair somewhere and wait. But you know we run a business together and spend almost all of our time together and we still “like” each other. You can’t ask for anything better than that.

        • Kristy K. James says:

          Thanks, Kathie, because that was truly one of the cutest things I’ve ever heard!

          Too funny about him taking so long to get ready. I have noticed that for all men complain that we take forever, that we’re on the phone all the time, and we stand around chatting and gossiping too much…men are just as bad. And some of them are worse, lol.

          I think it’s great that you work together AND still like each other so much after more than a decade. And no, you really can’t ask for anything better. You married your best friend. 🙂

  4. i believe i found my prince charming and i wish everyone theirs.. it’s a wonderful thing

    • Kristy K. James says:

      I know he makes you very happy, Debbie…and that’s the most important thing about a prince. Even if that prince spends a small fortune on big boy toys that have four wheels and big motors. 😉

  5. Alice says:

    Kristy, I had a Prince! I made the choice early on to hold out for a Prince. I didn’t meet my Prince until I was 44 but he was worth the wait. My Ed was old fashioned he courted me! If he came to my house for dinner he brought flowers,every time. He would call me every night just to talk even if we had seen each other earlier in the day. My Ed waited six weeks before he kissed for the first time. After we had been together for a time he would stop and pick wild daisy’s for me (he knew they were my favorite). In the evenings while we relaxed he would watch TV and I would quilt. Ed would pull my feet up in his lap and rub my feet for hours. And when we would go to sleep he would hold my hand all night long. That’s some of the reasons why my Ed was my Prince.

    • Kristy K. James says:

      Aww…he’s even sweeter than what you’ve already told me about him…and that was pretty sweet! Hours-long foot rubs? Flowers, phone calls, hand-holding. I can see why you miss him so much! We should all be as blessed as you were…only we should all get to keep them forever. He was definitely a Prince. 🙂

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