I’m not the first person to make this observation, and I’m sure I won’t be the last but I have to ask…what is it about the internet that causes so many people to set aside good manners and plain, old-fashioned politeness? All the time!
The thing that bothers me most is the grammar/spelling police. Unless you’re career requires that you know the difference between two, too, and to, most people aren’t going to remember the rules they learned in English. Sure, I like to see words used correctly, but it doesn’t make me crazy when they’re not. And I certainly don’t think it means someone is illiterate if they use their instead of there.
I’d hate to be judged on my ability to do (or not do) algebra. And off the top of my head, the only thing I remember from science class is herbivore (plant eater), carnivore (meat-eater), and omnivore (eats a well-balanced diet including both).
Unless it involves measuring cups or spoons, I can’t multiply or divide fractions. Does that make me an idiot? No. At least I don’t think it does. And just because I don’t know (and don’t care to know) much about engine repair or brain surgery doesn’t make anyone who does smarter than I am.
Okay, so the surgeons are probably smarter…but I’ll bet that I know more about some things than they do. I can make several different types of cookies without a recipe…and they taste good. But maybe someone who knows how to draw blue prints can’t boil water.
The point is, we do best where our talents lie, so we shouldn’t be judging anyone who can’t do something as well as we can.
Can ewe reed these sentences? It’s hard four me too right them wrong because it’s natural fore me two spell the write whey, butt when others due not, I can still reed what they have too say. They no how two speak correctly, they just don’t no as much about spelling as I due. And I only no because I have too. (spell and grammar check just went crazy on this paragraph, LOL!)
Okay, I’m finished playing around.
The fact of the matter is, I don’t care whether someone writes perfect sentences or not. What I care about is this…are they a decent person? Are they someone important to me? And if they’re not, is it because I judge them as less than because their English skills aren’t the same as mine? Or because another skill they lack is something I do well?
Because let me tell you…if I am judging people because I think I’m better than them in some way…what does that say about the kind of person I am?
Sure I’ll always consider people who hurt kids and animals to be worse than monsters, and people who steal from and cheat others as scum…but it’s not the same as judging others as defective because I don’t think they’re as smart as I am.
Then there’s the fact that if I set myself up as the god of who is worthy and who is not, then I open myself up for people to take a closer look at me, to notice where I’m lacking. I don’t want to be judged because in my fight against laundry stains, the stains usually win. Or because I can’t figure out how to use the stupid jacks that come with vehicles now.
We all need to start looking at the heart of the person, not the things that will never really matter. Their hearts are all that should ever matter.