Internet Etiquette
By now, everyone should know that I am not a member of the Grammar Nazi Club. I don’t care about typos. I don’t care if someone uses there instead of they’re. I don’t believe that how we spell, or whether or not we can use every word in the English language correctly, is any indicator of our intelligence. In case you’ve forgotten, I am a typo queen and beta readers and spellcheck are my BFFs. Forever. Literally.
There are four things that bug me when I’m online though - people who take things out of context to put the worst possible spin on a story, haters, cyber bullies … and not checking facts before sharing something.
I wake up to anywhere from fifty to a hundred social media notifications - sometimes more - every single day. As you can imagine, depending on what they are, it can take a while to get through them all.
For instance, if someone ‘liked’ one of my posts, I don’t need to do anything. If someone comments, I need to check it out … and usually respond. Anything else, I generally check because I like to find out the latest on GMOs, weather, etc…
However…
Some of those posts are for missing people and pets. Like everyone else, if it’s a legitimate crisis, I want to share the information too. I don’t have to know someone (or a dog or cat) to care about their safety … I just do.
But I always check to make sure the post is still relevant before I click that share button.
What do I mean? It’s actually very easy and today, I finally took the time to make a visual aid.
Clicking on the photo will make it larger and easier to read.
This morning, I saw an alert about a missing special needs child. Turns out, the story was two years old and the little girl died. Yet people continue to assume it’s a current emergency and would rather be safe than sorry, so they click that share button.
My feeling is, a family lost a child. This is something you never get over. You learn to live with it, but you never stop missing your child. So maybe today, that family is having a good day - until they log into Facebook and see the missing person alert for their daughter. That’s got to be like rubbing salt into a raw, open wound.
As you can see in the visual aid, it’s not that hard to check to see if a story is still current. Please take the time to check it out before you share it. Really. It only takes a minute or two. You don’t have to read every post. Just a quick skim and you’ll soon know whether the person or pet is still missing.
One more thing…
Last week, I saw someone on Facebook post that they’d just heard an acquaintance died, and did anyone know if was true. All I could think is what if a family member who hadn’t been reached yet saw that post? What a way to find out a loved one had passed away.
Yeah, internet etiquette … it’s more important than we realize.

February 13, 2015 @ 6:20 pm
Thank you for this post Kristy! Just the thought that you wrote this with others in mind is such a great act of kindness. That’s what I love about you.
February 19, 2015 @ 9:17 pm
As is becoming very normal for me, I’ve lost track of time again…
Hi, Karen! Thanks for your kind words. I try to be a decent person (unless I have to shop with rude people, and then I want to run them over with my cart 😀 ). But yes, after reading about people who steal the photos of others - usually of their sick and/or dying children - for something as stupid as getting Facebook likes/shares or retweeted, I always check posts like that. I know I offend people when I post the truth, but I just hate that the real family - like in the photo I wrote about - might see it. Not that I expect much to come from this article, but if even one person takes the minute or two to check the facts, it’s worth everyone I’ve annoyed with it.
March 4, 2015 @ 3:30 pm
Thanks for sharing how to check the photo to see if the story is current or old. I didn’t know this and will be sure and check it out before posting something like this.
March 18, 2015 @ 2:02 am
Glad you like the info. I really appreciate it when I don’t have to check all posts I’d like to share to make sure they’re up to date. I haven’t seen many lately, so maybe other people are taking time too. 😀