I’ve been debating whether to post about this or not because I can’t give out specific details but since I’m still thinking about it after more than a week, I suppose I will.

A few days after Thanksgiving, someone I and several others used to be close to passed away. There was a tragic event and most of us chose to – rightfully – support the victim. The other small group chose to support the guilty party … and there was very clearly – legally – a victim and a guilty party.

It caused a  huge wedge between everyone but it was assumed that during this sad time, there might be a little bridge building. Most of us wanted to let the past go, at least for this, but it wasn’t meant to be. Long story short, those who supported the victim were banned from the funeral.

At first we were all offended. Then mad, then hurt. Then back to mad. I can’t speak for the others but I finally realized I don’t need people in my life who don’t want to be there. No matter how important any person used to be, if they choose – for whatever reason – to walk away, I’m not going to chase them.

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Will I regret my decision to let them go? Not really. They chose this path, not me. I’ll still pray for them and I’ll still wish them well but honestly… Life is too short and there are too many people who do want to be part of mine. I’ll focus on them instead – and be the happier for it.

I’ll always be sorry things turned out this way though. But I’ll always have some wonderful childhood memories to look back on.

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2 Responses to Reflections

  1. I’ve had some people over the years who have decided they didn’t want to have anything to do with me anymore. The reasons were pretty stupid (in my opinion), but in the end, I had to honor their wishes. It sounds like the situation you’re involved in is more serious.

    I agree with you. If people don’t want to talk to you, then there’s no point in chasing after them. I figure whatever their problem is, it’s their problem. All you can do is focus on the people who want to be a part of your life.

    I’m sorry this happened. What a painful experience. 🙁

    • Kristy K. James says:

      I’d blame my slow response on the fact that it’s 12 days before Christmas but It’s just been crazy around here for what feels like forever. I post a blog and boom. I’m wondering where a week (or two – or a month) has gone.


      Thank you. And I agree when dealing with people like that – it’s their problem. I refuse to make it mine. I decided at some point in the past couple of years that I just don’t have time for people who won’t make time for me. I won’t be rude to or snub anyone but I just have to draw the line with some people. I’m sorry you’ve experienced the same thing with people in your life. But no matter how much it might hurt at the time, in the long run, it’s better. It’s less stressful and less hurtful.

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