Sex and Romance…NOT the Same Thing

Okay, so welcome back. This week I  decided that we needed to tackle an important issue…because I know this subject causes a great deal of confusion. And let me tell you, not getting it right can cause major problems in a relationship.

Especially in the bedroom.

Like it or not, if you want a great sex life, you need to make sure you don’t neglect this extremely important area. Something you need to address long before you slip between the sheets.

Most warm-blooded creatures liked to be touched…especially creatures of the human variety. Look at Jasper (above). He’s only a cat, but he’s in heaven right now-because he’s being touched.

But back to the humans. A gentle caress, an affectionate kiss on the forehead, or soft touch of any kind is one way you can be romantic – as opposed to blatant sexual advances and groping. Yes, it’s good that you want your Romeo or Juliet, but you need to remember they’re more than just a body. They have emotional needs that you need to be willing to nurture. If every touch from you is of a sexual nature, it can be big turn off.

Guys…want to earn some major brownie points in the romance department? Slow dancing is the perfect way to take touching to a whole new level. Pop in a CD filled with her favorite love songs. Then light the candles you set around the room earlier, turn the lights off and…you’ll be Juliet’s white knight.

You must meet his or her emotional needs if you expect your physical needs to be met.

Invest in romance like you do in stocks

Both take patience before you start to see a return. At least they do most of the time. A great sex life is the profit that comes from emotional investments. But know this…  If your main goal is to reap the benefits, then you’ll probably be unhappy with the results.

That said, take every opportunity to touch your sweetheart in affectionate, non-sexual ways this week. Tender caresses, hand-holding, hugs. Any physical contact that says you care is fine.

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If you think that any of the suggested tips are a good fit for you, and you decide to give them a try, I’d love to know if you got the results you hoped for. Although I can’t guarantee you’ll get any results, most people respond well to sweetness, consideration and attention.

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